Dear Oldest Son and Oldest Daughter,
I just want you to know that when you left tonight to go back to college and I didn’t walk you out to the car, it’s my way of hiding. Hiding from strong emotions. I gave you a big hug and kiss, but went right back to washing the dinner dishes.
I didn’t even realize that I was running.
Running from the sadness and grief of letting you go and grow up.
They warned me.
People warned me that my kids would grow up but I didn’t believe them…
and I just couldn’t fathom the idea that I would no longer be needed.
You say, “but I’ve been there at the university for a few years now.
And I’m only 45 mins away.
And we have a good relationship???”
Yes, that’s true, but until you are a parent, you won’t know the amalgam of feelings. In parenting, you feel the shame when your kids make poor choices. You feel the pride of your child’s success.
And we all know that parents make it about themselves. I’m no different.
Yet my job as a parent is almost done.
Sadness mixed with pride mixed with frettin’ and closure.
So…I love you both bunches. If you feel I’m pushing you both away, I probably am. So you’ll have to remind me
To quit it.
(photo by madmolecule and modern carpentry)
I love you mom
Love you back.
What a nice little article. They sure do grow up fast. Thanks for sharing that…
Hi Greg,
How is Janet doing with “growing up” kids? You have a herd of them, too.
Thanks for stopping by.
j
Gulp. From your friend with the 6 and 3 year old whom I hold tight every single day.
Poignant.
Ah! I feel your bitter-sweet pain, dear friend. <3
Dearest Liz, Jennifer and Leann,
Thank you dear mama friends.
It’s nice to share “growing pains.”
Jan,
You’ll always be needed, just differently. Thankfully, mine are still living at home while at school.
Sandi, Hi!
I know they’ll need me but it’s such intense changes that catch me off guard.
Thank you for your comment. Appreciate it. 🙂